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These days, there are a lot of techniques, tricks, and routines available to the average guy, that promise to help him “get the girl.”

Unfortunately, most of that stuff being sold out there rarely works to help you get more dates, if at all.

You see, at the end of the day, giving a bunch of techniques is actually useless to a guy if he is too nervous, anxious or even afraid to approach women. If he can’t bolster up the courage to walk up and talk to a beautiful woman, none of the techniques or “lines” will work ever work because he will never get to use any sort of of them.

And, even if he did somehow pump himself up and also drum up enough courage to approach a woman, that woman will see through his fake and/or temporary ‘confidence’ as well as will probably rip him to shreds.

The hotter the woman is definitely, the quicker she will send the guy running off with his tail between his legs. (If you’ve ever tried approaching a “10,” you may have already experienced this specific personally.)

So… if you ever want to “fix” your dating life and even your ability to attract and also date beautiful women – permanently, you must fix your mind first! Or else, everything else you do will be a waste of time. None of it will work unless you work on adopting the seductive mindset first!

The average guy walks into the dating video game with the belief that he has to impress a woman by showing her – or telling her about – his success, riches, status, fame, connection, etc.

Plus while those things may get some women’s attention, it will rarely work to attract them to you. Moreover, the women that do get attracted to you because of your money, success, or status will almost always be the wrong kind of women, i.e. gold diggers, who are not interested in you, but only in your money and/or success.

The same is definitely true for the purpose of guys who are “good looking” as well as only use their looks to try to seduce women. Again, that will only attract women who are interested in how you look – not in who you are. (Plus, we all know that “looks” are always temporary.)

And also, even if you did happen to attract a women with just your looks, if you don’t have anything else going for the purpose of you – besides your good looks, the average woman will lose interest in you very quickly. She will get bored along with move on. (It’s the equivalent of choosing a gift with the shinest wrapper, unwrapping it, and even being disappointed at what you find inside.)

Unless you’ve worked on adopting the right mindset, none of the other stuff will work. As well as, if that other stuff does work, it will usually attract the wrong kind of women…so the ‘success’ you achieve will be very temporary.

So…in order to become genuinely attractive to women, without relying on money, status, good looks or shiny new clothes, you have to know as well as understand what women are really attracted to! (Not what they say or think they’re attracted to – but what they are really attracted to.)

Plus, in order to understand what women are attracted to, you must first understand plus really “get” what women are not attracted to. You must understand what women are turned off – or even repelled – by.

And also you must learn to never do those things around women.

Here’s a list of some of the most common “turn offs” plus repulsive behaviors:

1. Being too nervous, fidgety, anxious, in awe of, and even generally uncomfortable around her. (This is certainly exactly where we started, remember?)

2. Trying to impress her by showing – or telling her about – your car, house, bank account, job, connections, etc.

3. Trying to be macho, arrogant, egotistic, a jerk, a “bad boy” etc. (Yes, some women are attracted to jerks or “bad boys” but pretending to be one of those guys will only backfire on you. Remember, getting “pumped up” before approaching her isn’t the best strategy to use.)

4. Being too “nice,” agreeing with everything she says, kissing up to her, or any sort of such behavior – in hopes of trying to make her “like” you.

5. Trying too hard to keep the conversation going, not being comfortable enough to just talk along with have fun naturally, along with even trying too hard to be funny.

The first one, #1, listed above is definitely one of the main reasons guys don’t attract women. It is also a big reason as to why the other turn-offs, listed in numbers 2 – 5 exist.

When you’re uncomfortable around beautiful women (or women in general,) nothing else will work in your favor, especially not techniques or pickup lines that you’ve practiced intended for hours.

When you’re uncomfortable, you will try to impress her too much, you will pretend to be macho and also confident, you will kiss up to her, and you will even try too hard to keep the conversation interesting and/or flowing naturally.

There are many techniques you can use to “fix” this particular problem – from easy to complex, from quick to more time-consuming.

One of the easiest ways to become comfortable around women is actually to stop trying to attract them or date them (meant for now)… along with just start talking to them – as if they were any sort of other stranger you happened to come across, i.e. a woman you’re not attracted to, a child, or even a guy.

Simply start talking to women – all women, anywhere along with everywhere. Talk to them as you would another human being. Stop trying to impress them or seduce them.

If this is actually not easy for you to do, start by talking to women you’re not attracted to – as mentioned above.

And even start by simply saying “Hi” or “Hello.”

Do not worry about how they respond. Just do it – with a friendly smile. Along with, instead of letting their response affect you emotionally, simply observe what they do or say.

Think of it as a social experiment. Imagine the entire world is definitely your laboratory.

Remember, your goal below is actually not to attract or seduce her. It’s to simply get your mind (along with body) to become comfortable with the idea of talking to women.

It’s a gradual process, so don’t force it too much. And even, don’t beat yourself up over it either.

Just think of it as practice. Any specific sport or activity that you want to get good at requires practice. And also, at first it may seem slow-going, but things will pick up speed as you continue working plus putting in the time.

So, just do it, as well as forget about the results for now. (Just think of it as a social experiment, as I mentioned earlier.)

Say “Hi” or Hello” to random strangers meant for a week, wherever you see them.

Then, add “How are you?” and even do that for another week. (If they start talking to you, then obviously respond in like.)

Then, meant for the next week, try to have (read: initiate) an actual conversation with them for at least a minute or two. (Talk about the weather, their cool hat, or whatever. Just get used to the idea of talking to strangers.)

The more comfortable you become with doing that, the better, and more positively, they will respond to you. And also, this valuable constant, upward cycle will continue to blog feed itself – as you become more comfortable plus competent.

Along with of course, learn from each experience. Remember to pay attention to as much of what’s going on as possible. (This valuable will also force you to get out of your own head along with focus your attention on them. That’s a good thing.)

Remember, don’t take anything they say or do personally, but pay attention to the process. And, use that to improve your conversation skills meant for approaching complete strangers and even getting them to open up to you.

Only after you have become comfortable with the process can you start adding (and using) some conversation techniques to your strategy.

Remember, what we discussed earlier… the mindset needs to be fixed first; techniques come later.

And even now, you can be ready to learn my other pickup techniques, advanced conversation tactics, attraction tips as well as seduction tricks revealed in my free dating tip blog.

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